Homeschooling - centers for the younger ones

I like to say that we arrived late to the homeschool party. My kids were in 7^th, 5^th, and 3^rd grades when we started. The upside to that was my kids could all read, write, and do basic math – this was going to be a breeze.

Enter child number four. We adopted a 5 year old that was half way through kindergarten when he came to live with us. We decided to homeschool him with the rest of our children; so with no time to prepare, I began teaching a kindergartener that did not know how to read, write, or do basic math. He was already a little behind his classmates. He also needed a lot of attention which made schooling the other children more difficult.

Enter “center time.” I created as many “centers” (I use this term loosely) as I could think of to keep him busy and productive. We had a small house, so “centers” needed to be compact and portable. I bought several clear plastic shoe boxes at the craft store for less than a buck each. I labeled the outside of each box with a picture icon of the “center.” Then each morning, he would choose 4 or 5 “centers” that he would do for the day. Most of them could be done independently once he understood what to do, though a few of them required a partner (mom or an older sibling).

For kindergarten our day consisted of centers, reading together, computer time, and joining in with the older siblings for unit studies. He needed speech therapy; so we worked on that each day as well. On Fridays we went to a co-op. We kept it simple. He learned to read and write and do basic math (though he still struggles with math). My advice is this – don't stress, keep it simple, they will learn.

Most of these ideas could be used from preschool through first grade depending on the child. I modified them some between kindergarten and first grade, so I will list all of the ones we used over the years. Most of them use things you probably already have around the house and whatever you do need to purchase will not cost much.

Today I will cover some general centers. Future posts will cover math and language arts centers.
I have written about sensory bins before and they would also make great centers.

Mail center – all of your junk mail especially the postcard type, rubber stamps, stickers

I learned this game as a kid from my best friend's mom. We would play mailroom for hours. Let your kids stamp and sticker the mail. You could even make a mailbox out of an old shoebox with a slot on top.

 Flashcards (Flashcard race) – flashcards: alphabet, sightwords, numbers, addition, etc.; board from a boardgame (I like the Balderdash game board) and 2 board pieces

Flashcards are great for many centers and learning in general.  You can find them online to print for free or buy them at a dollar store.  We play a game with them, too. Find a very basic board from any board game, or create your own with around 20 spaces from start to finish. Show your child a flashcard and if they get it correct they get to move one space. If they do not get it right, you move one space. Obviously, I always let him win by making sure he knew more of the cards than he did not know – but it is a fun way to challenge him and keep it interesting.

Sewing or Lacing Cards – cards and laces or yarn (I bought some at a yard sale and some at a dollar store. You can also make them.)

This is great for fine motor skills.

Games – pickup sticks, connect four, memory,yahtzee,  tiddly winks

This changed from time to time based on interest and skill level. You might be surprised how many games can be “played” independently even if they weren't designed to be. Connect four is great for making patterns. Candyland and Chutes & Ladders are sometimes more fun without the pressure to win – the goal is just to finish.

Puzzles – 24 to 48 piece puzzles (tons of choices at a dollar store)

Science box – magnifying glass, small measuring tape, plastic tweezers, nature books 

Encourage your child to explore (inside and outside) by examining, measuring, and even collecting whatever they find.

Magnets – magnet set or gather magnets and random items to “test”

If you have a magnet set, kids can build things with them. Otherwise, collect some magnets (kitchen magnets will do) and random things for them to test out if they are magnetic or not.  Make sure your child does not put things in his mouth before starting this one.

Blocks – depending on age: Duplo, Lego, Trio, or whatever you have (Lincoln Logs, anyone?)

My son doesn't really like to play with toys, so making it a center was important for us. If you have a kid that builds with blocks for hours just for fun – skip this one.

Art box - water colors & paper, paint with water books, paintbrushes, finger paints (if you dare), newspaper (to cover the table)

Let's face it; kids love this stuff.

Playdough - playdough (store bought or homemade), cutters and tools

If you are like most parents, you have too much of this stuff.  The key here is to put just enough to fit in the small plastic shoebox, then rotate the contents from time to time.

Other ideas would be puppets, a play kitchen area, coloring, a book center where they can "read", books on CD, musical instruments (if you can stand the noise), and any educational toys you already have.  Go on a hunt through your home to find things that could be put to use in a "center."  You'll be surprised at what you can come up with it.

Adoption is affordable - Part 3

So you've decided that you want to adopt, and maybe foster care is not what you are thinking.  That's ok - adoption can still be affordable.  You just have to get creative!

Individual families raise funds in a variety of ways - from bake sales to sporting events and everything in between.  This list of ideas can help you get started.

There are ways to fund raise online, such as gofundme which allows you to set a goal, tell your story, and collect funds.  It is also possible to raise funds on your own blog using pay pal.

Then there is Give 1 Save 1 which is a blog that challenges its followers to give $1 each week to their chosen family of the week in order to help bring another orphan home.  Recently, someone I know was the family of the week on Give 1 Save 1 where their story was shared and people were linked to their adoption blog to donate.

Many organizations help fund adoptions through grants and fundraising - some organizations raise money for families and some raise money for specific orphans.  Here are just a few.
Show Hope gives grants to families for adoption.
Lifesong for Orphans provides matching grants and no-interest loans to families for adoption. 
Reece's Rainbow raises funds for the adoption of specific children with Down Syndrome.
Love Without Boundaries raises funds for the adoption of specific children from China.
And there are so many more!  This list can help you find the right organization for your adoption journey.

There is also an adoption tax credit: a specific amount that can be deducted from your tax liability.  The amount changes every year and cannot exceed your actual expenses.  Also, it is not a refund; it is a deduction.

Be encouraged.  If you desire to adopt, it can be a reality!

If adoption is not something you are called to, maybe you can help donate to someone who is called.  Together we can care for the orphans.

Adoption is affordable - Part 2

(Adoption is such a complex issue.  This installment will focus on the adoption of older children.  My words are meant to inspire and encourage, never to guilt.)

I have had several conversations lately with people who are older (meaning they are beyond child-bearing age and/or are empty-nesters) who have expressed a desire to adopt but feel like it is too late for them.  On the contrary, it may be the perfect time to adopt.  Sure, you don't want to have a baby when you turn 50, but how about a teenager?  Older children are less likely to be adopted.  In fact, one of the "special needs" children have is being a teenager.  Yep, you read that right.  Just being an older child causes the likelihood of adoption to drop and therefore earn the label "special needs".

They still deserve a forever family.  Can you imagine your life from age 18 on with no one to call family?  No where to go for holidays; no father to walk you down the aisle; no grandparents for your children?  Yet that is precisely what happens when children age-out of the foster care system.  They turn 18 (age varies by state) and find that they have no family and often no where to go.  In 2011, approximately 40,000 children were emancipated.  Emancipation - an ironic term that sounds like freedom but freedom from what?  Freedom from love and security?

What does this have to do with adoption being affordable?  I think many people may hesitate to adopt an older child at least partly due to financial concerns.  Not only the anticipated cost of an adoption, but also the costs associated with caring for a child.  A child that will soon drive, and go to college, and get married, and ... we may start to see $$$.

Here are some little known facts about how the foster care system wants to HELP you adopt.
1.  Adoption Assistance - Some children qualify for adoption assistance, which is a set amount of money that you receive each month to help cover the costs of caring for the child.  The amount varies greatly based on factors such as age, medical needs and other special needs.
2.  Health Insurance - Most children will qualify for Medicaid until they turn 18 even after they are adopted.  This means free health care, such as doctor visits and prescriptions.
3.  College Tuition - Some states (including mine) have amazing college tuition funding for older children that are adopted from foster care (typically those over 12).

With 104,000 children in the U.S. foster care system currently waiting to be adopted, it's time we dispel the common myths about adoption from foster care.  If you have ever thought about adoption but have questions or hesitations, feel free to comment or contact me directly - I'd love to hear from you.

Adoption is affordable - Part 1

(This post has been weeks, maybe even months, in the making.  I have so much to say on this topic that it will be posted in installments.)

When we first adopted our youngest son, I was amazed at how many people mentioned their own desire to adopt.  Yet, without fail almost every person voiced the same concern.  "We really want to adopt, but it's just too expensive."  I want to dispel the myth that adoption has to be expensive.  Obviously, if we can do it - so can you!

Private infant adoption and international adoption can be costly.  We chose to adopt through the foster care system.  Staying local cuts obvious costs like flights and hotels, as well as other costs involved such as international fees and visas.  The main cost difference between private and foster care adoption is that the government pays most of the fees associated with adoption through foster care.

That doesn't mean it is free, but it is significantly less expensive.  All adoptions start with the same costs - a home study.  The home study will involve background checks, finger printing, home fire safety inspection, CPR/First Aid training, and possible other small costs.  There are many factors but you should estimate about $1,000 to cover all of the costs.  Once your home study is finished there are few if any costs involved in an adoption through foster care.

However, cost is only one of many considerations when adopting.  I think there is a stigma in adopting from foster care.  I have heard things such as: "Aren't they all special needs?"  "Don't they all have problems?"  "I heard you can only adopt teenagers."  I'm sure most people are well-meaning, but honestly my biological children have problems and one has a learning disability.  That doesn't mean anything to me.  A child in foster care has obviously had a disadvantage in life - they have experienced great loss at an early age.  This is true in every adoption story.

The subject of age is another matter.  It is true that adopting an infant from foster care is unlikely.  That is because the system of foster care is always hoping for reunification.  By the time it is obvious that reunification is impossible, most children are older.  There are times when parents willingly relinquish an infant, but more often than not legally free (adoptable) children are already over the age of 4.

My husband was so over diapers and potty training and  sleepless nights that a 4-year-old sounded just about right.  Our youngest was 8 at the time, so we wanted a child under 8.  No problem, within six weeks of finishing all of the paperwork we were told that a special little 5-year-old would be our son.  Every story and situation is different, but if you are not pursuing adoption because of the cost, be encouraged.  Adoption is affordable!!